tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4226279147620623318.post1619256193792824771..comments2023-10-20T09:02:49.873-04:00Comments on Cracks in the Armour: NormalRosie N. Greyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05460996346017007636noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4226279147620623318.post-4284438847157408432012-08-07T14:21:34.591-04:002012-08-07T14:21:34.591-04:00Thanks Laura, for the comment! You give me hope, ...Thanks Laura, for the comment! You give me hope, regarding benefitting from being a bit sheltered. I honestly believe that we don't always do our kids favours by exposing them to the harsh reality of the world. Instead of building tough reslient kids, we build anxiety disorders, and children with depression or completely desensitized to tragedy and suffering. <br /><br />I too feel sorry for "normal" people! :) Thanks again!Rosie N Greynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4226279147620623318.post-82310345546071892832012-08-02T14:48:54.127-04:002012-08-02T14:48:54.127-04:00I love that you called this post "Normal"...I love that you called this post "Normal". It brought up so many feelings for me that I don't know if I can express them in a coherent way....but I'll try!<br /><br />I'm not a parent, but I do remember being a kid and knowing that my parents were desperate to keep me separate and safe and untouched by the cruelty of the world. That could have gone horribly wrong for them....I could have become a sheltered, scared little person who never wanted to explore the world but instead I became a free spirit.<br /><br />Also, I was a kid who knew from a young age that I was anything but "normal". I was always overweight, one of the smart kids of the class, I grew really fast so I was a foot taller than a lot of other kids, had thick Coke bottle glasses from grade 2 on and a lisp which (was treated by my leaving regular class to go to speech therapy). And I always preferred to read over doing anything else. So I was a real easy target and I got teased and bullied a lot. I was never angry about that, more just baffled. <br /><br />Honestly, I have never wanted to be "normal" and I have always been very, very grateful that I'm not. Being "not normal" is a gift....it builds character and strength and pride. I also understand the rage you felt towards those kids and their parents. Really, what the hell is wrong with people? I feel sorry for them that they are so normal!Lauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4226279147620623318.post-18506670421699548102012-08-01T22:07:52.497-04:002012-08-01T22:07:52.497-04:00Thanks Val. I am hoping I can learn from this-lea...Thanks Val. I am hoping I can learn from this-learn to spot he situation faster, learn to diffuse, learn to react without getting angry first. The last thing I want is to make Sebastian honk that he shouldn't be around other kids. But a part of me wants to keep him separate and safe forever. ;)Rosie N. Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05460996346017007636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4226279147620623318.post-72115502343460326412012-08-01T21:38:43.292-04:002012-08-01T21:38:43.292-04:00Heartbreaking... I could feel my heart pounding in...Heartbreaking... I could feel my heart pounding in my chest as I read your words about their behaviour towards Sebastian.<br /><br />((hugs))Searching...https://www.blogger.com/profile/09648633012795476706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4226279147620623318.post-75963224480788533242012-08-01T12:13:03.894-04:002012-08-01T12:13:03.894-04:00Hi there, thanks for the comment! I understand co...Hi there, thanks for the comment! I understand completely what you are saying- Sebastian definitely draws attention to himself. I guess I have been spoiled over the years with generally positive experiences with adults and other kids. It was the almost instinctive predatory type behaviour that I kept seeing that disturbed me. It makes me wary and has burst my little happy bubble. I keep him close, I keep him safe, but I know I can't always do that. So I have to learn to balance letting (and encouraging) him to explore with my need to make sure nothing really bad happens to him.Rosie N. Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05460996346017007636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4226279147620623318.post-85309809476153446622012-07-31T23:43:45.239-04:002012-07-31T23:43:45.239-04:00Human beings crave interaction. Kids look to conne...Human beings crave interaction. Kids look to connect with other kids. One who ignores them is different.<br /><br />Not sure why parents were not keeping more of a line on them no need for them to terrorize a kid.<br /><br />We are all different. It is just more noticeable for some of us than others. <br /><br />I know this is a parenting struggle. I have met families with kids who act out or fail to connect.<br /><br />They keep them close and that seems to keep them fairly safe.ToscaSachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13121426970881077763noreply@blogger.com