He is a "later" person. I am a "now" person.
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When I want to do something, or make a decision, I want to start. Now. Right now. I don't want to waste another second, I want to get my hands dirty, I want to get it done. If I decide that I want to go somewhere, I want to go today. If I am going to go out for dinner, then I want to do it that night.
I know that it isn't always feasible to be a now person. There are challenges- money, previous plans, other people's schedules, and just the simple logistics of starting and finishing projects. But I love the rush, the excitement that I feel when I get an idea or an urge and I am able to act on it right away.
Geoff is a later person. As in "someday, but not right now". I will tell him that I want to do something, or go somewhere, and he will agree that it is a good idea. When I ask him to pack it up and get ready to go, he usually gets that confused look on his face, as he begins to understand that yes, I did mean today. The excuses usually start. Sometimes, he goes with it.
It causes conflict in lots of different ways. I will ask him to do something. I mean now. He does it later. I get pissed. He is confused (seeing a trend here? Geoff doesn't put as much though into these things as I do.)
I am trying to turn my kids into now people too. Not only do I want them to jump and do what I want them to do, the minute I ask them to do it :), but I want them to live with this kind of excitement. I want them to feel what it's like to have the flash of brilliance, and that flutter in your belly. I want them to have the drive to start- not just start but finish!
There is something I am struggling with. Their "nows". The "let's go to the park" and "let's paint!" and "let's play hopscotch". When their "nows" conflict with mine. I find myself saying no, not now, later. I want them to be nows. I am forcing them to be laters. That makes me feel like a bad mom. I need to find a way to fix this. Now. Not later.
Rosie N. Grey
The N stands for "now".